01 Nov I’ve Lost That Loving Feeling
This weekend, I was sent a message from God through a stranger on the street. This past week was a bit more challenging than most. It started with my phone falling into a toilet. (The funeral was attended by its closest friends; burial will be held at the city’s recycling center.) Now for many, this incident would just be a case of bad luck. But for me, it was a sign that it was time to change the way that I communicate. The challenge was that I didn’t know what that looked like. In fact, I didn’t even know I had a problem. So, I started to rehash the weeks prior. I thought about what I said, what I did, and who I encountered. As the week went on, I became increasingly more frustrated because I could not see or figure out where I had gone wrong.
Then on Saturday night as I was wandering aimlessly through the streets of Paris (hoping to find a place that sold cookies to quell my soul), I was stopped by a stranger who asked me for directions. I couldn’t help him find what he was looking for, but he helped me find that answer I was looking for. After a pretty lengthy exchange about my dog Lia, he asked me why I was in Paris and what I did. I shared that I showed people how to change their lives using the healing power of love. Then he said, the simplest most meaningful words. He said, “You can’t think about love, you MUST feel love.”
Voila! That was it. That is what I had been missing. I spent so much time writing about love, talking about love, and intellectualizing love that in my pursuit to share love, I stopped FEELING love. My phone went in the toilet because I was spending too much time communicating through my head and not with my heart. I was so eager to share what I knew about love that I stopped connecting from a heart space.
As I pondered this thought, I realized that the world has a similar problem. There are books on love, songs about love, movies about love, poems, etc. But how often do we stop to truly FEEL all the love that is around us? The gentle breeze on our face, a kiss between a couple, a smile from stranger, a playful moment with your dog… These are all LOVE! But so often we take these moment for granted because we are too rushed, focused on something else, or we just use an ingrained response. Love shouldn’t be intellectualized. It doesn’t have to be taught. It simply MUST be felt! Love is a heart connection between you and all the beauty of the life around you.
My lesson this weekend was one that I teach (and easy to forget). Stop the mind and move to your heart. When you do this, you don’t have to ask what is right or what is love…you FEEL it. This is how your find purpose, inner peace and this is how you FEEL LOVE.
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