The seed of all these values is love.
Human values are a way of living with your thoughts, words and actions. It is the revival of 5 simple concepts that bring you back to your innate goodness. It is through love that we can heal and resolve any presenting issue whether it is marital, work conflicts, inner discord, etc. Dr. Milan’s approach incorporates Human Needs psychology along with core human values. Coupling these two approaches instills transformation and lasting changes in any area of life.
When I speak to students from Kindergarten age to high school age, I often say: If you get the first value right, all the others will fall into place. And it’s true. The first value is the value of love.
Human Values are love, truth, peace, right conduct, and nonviolence. I discuss this in my book in more detail.
Love is the most important of the five human values. It is the value that sets the foundation for all the other values. Love is absolutely critical on the journey toward incorporating the values into your life. Without it, there can only be fleeting success with all the other values.
When we are asked where to find love in our bodies, we point to our hearts. This is the seat of love. It is where we feel love in its purest form. It is what we all strive for in our evolutionary journey. Our entire purpose on this planet is to love and be loved. Love is the quickest pathway to God (and your God self), embracing your divine potential and living in bliss. Love as a value is the cornerstone, the seed, the beginning, the gateway to all the other values. If you lived with complete love for everything and everyone, every other value would naturally come into alignment. If you lived completely in love, you’d never hold a grudge, feel pain, or confusion. You wouldn’t be able to because true love is pure. It is God. The concept of love is so uncomplicated yet conversely a word and idea that have become terribly distorted in its definition. However, love cannot be judged or measured. It is only felt. Thoughts of love must be followed by words of kindness and acts of selflessness, or else love becomes meaningless (Dewan, 2003).
Related to the body, we find the value of truth in our head. It comes from our thoughts, which manifest into words or actions. In today’s world, the word truth has become layered in justifications and falsehoods. However, the actual definition of truth has only two meanings. There is the abstract truth and the infinite truth. The abstract is a truth that can change over time. It can be a truth that has been handed down from generation to generation based on the knowledge, doctrines, or dogmas of one or even many. It can be a feeling or fleeting thought. It can be an idea or concept. It can be something someone told you only a moment ago or many years before. Whatever it is, it is changing. As part of our evolution, ideas and beliefs change as we grow and gain more awareness in our lives.
As love is the seed that sprouts all of the values, then peace can be likened to the trunk of the tree, the basis on which the other values can be nurtured and grown. In the body, peace is found in our navel region, which is considered our core. It is center proportion of da Vinci’s Vitruvian man. It is the place where you build physical strength to maintain balance. Yet interestingly enough, it seems for many of us, it is what we are lacking the most. Part of the problem is that many people define peace as the absence of war or differences. When you ask them what peace looks like, people tend to hold up two fingers in a symbolic gesture.
In some regard, this is all true, but the definition is not quite correct. True peace lies within our core. It is where we come back to center when life gets out of balance. It is the value that gives us the strength and stability to support all of the other values. It is an inner calm, strength, and stillness.
Right conduct is something similar to the scales of justice–one side being good choices, the other side bad decisions. The central idea behind right conduct is purely about making good choices. However, there are several factors that need to be considered when making good decisions. Primarily, they consist of thinking about how a choice will impact one’s own well-being as well as those around you. Doing the right thing is not right conduct if you are not taking others or the planet into consideration during your decision-making process.
Typically violence is primarily identified with crime, war, and killing. Yet some of the biggest acts of violence are committed with words, not actions. Beyond that, the greatest violations usually occur against ourselves. The second kind of violence occurs when we turn our unkind words toward others. There is another form of violence that we engage in when we communicate with others. It is something called “blocking.” We do this when we shut people down during verbal interactions. Another aspect of violence comes in the form of our gestures.
Nonviolence is a world view. It is the simple equation of cause and effect. Violence in actions, words, or deed is the result of what happens when we don’t have the other values in place. It is what happens when we extract the seed of love from our hearts. We must use love as the driving force behind all our values. So it is important to be conscious and aware of what violence looks like through our words, gestures, and actions because love and violence cannot coexist in the same space.
SI is a project dedicated to extracting the most practical and effective forms of strategic action and communication from a variety of disciplines: Ericksonian therapy, strategic family therapy, Human Needs Psychology, organizational psychology, neurolinguistics, psychology of influence, strategic studies, traditions of diplomacy and negotiation, game theory, and others.
Strategic Intervention exists wherever human beings use extraordinary skill to bring about positive personal and cultural change. Nelson Mandela and Mahatma Ghandi are examples of masterful Strategic Interventionists who transcend the particularities of religion, culture, institution, job description, or political philosophy (as a Strategic Interventionist should.)
What distinguishes SI from other strategic studies is the belief that certain holistic solutions “snap into place” when more people’s needs are met, expressed, and elevated. These solutions actually deliver more benefit for less effort. Strategic Intervention is also grounded in the work of the Gregory Bateson group at the Mental Research Institute, which in the late 1950’s originated the new paradigm of interactional and systemic studies, which became a watershed in the development of disciplines such as game theory, cybernetics, neurolinguistics, organizational psychology, management psychology, and dozens of other systemic disciplines.
The goal of Strategic Intervention is to integrate the core insights of these traditions into a method of practical strategic action. SI encompasses strategies that span from the belief systems and emotional patterns within an individual, to individual relationships, to group dynamics, to organizational and cultural interventions. A trained SI coach navigates these different arenas with ease.
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