01 Jul Dear Melania Trump
Dear Melania Trump,
Please take a moment to read this letter as I think it might resonate with what is within your heart as a woman, advocate, and mother. We don’t know each other, and we will probably never meet. But that isn’t because we run in different circles or because your husband is the President. It is simply because I believe we are defined by the company we keep. It is within this one seed of truth why our worlds may remain separate. That said, I think I can safely say that you have sent the world some very mixed messages over the past 6 months. So, as one strong woman and child advocate to another, in the pursuit of understanding and in an effort to gain some clarity, I would like to ask you some questions about some of your recent choices.
To start, I am confused about how you claim to prioritize motherhood and yet expose your beautiful child to hate, conflict, bigotry, racism, misogyny, and bullying. I am confused by how you want to end cyber-bullying and yet defend the very act of cyber-bullying when your husband does it to someone else. I am confused about how you claim to be devout in your beliefs, and yet fail to support the fundamental concepts that your faith stands on which are love, acceptance, and tolerance for all. I am also confused by how as a strong immigrant woman, you have allowed yourself to be cast to the side as meaningless and insignificant in your relationship. You have let yourself be disgraced in front of the world. I ask you, Melania, is this the message you want to teach your child? Moreover, is this the message you want to send young women and girls who idolize you? Is the message you want to send to women and immigrants that the American dream is only built on the back of a man?
I implore you to look inside your heart and your consciousness to truly see the message and the impact you are having on young girls and women all over the world. I ask you to remember the women and children who need hope and courage in finding a way to stand strong against abuse, neglect, and bullying. Like it or not, you are now a woman with a global voice. Use that voice to teach all children that two wrongs don’t make a right and that violence of any type is NOT the answer. Use your power to EMPOWER women of all races, creeds, colors, orientations, and faiths. Show women that it is important to stand up for what you believe in. Teach women that ALL women are strong, capable, and not docile show ponies to be paraded behind a man.
Melanie, you have a choice. You have the choice to stand and be a hero, a voice, and a champion for change. Or, will you continue to defend and ignore bad behavior and teach your child as well as every other child watching you to walk away in the face of what is right, moral, and fair? Conversely, you can make the choice to have integrity with your thoughts words, and deeds related to all the platform for which you claim to stand.
The choice is yours! But remember, the consequences of your choices don’t just impact your tiny microcosm of a world. Now, your choices and actions have much greater implications! If you make the right choices, yes, maybe one day we will meet as you’ll be someone who defines the company I keep. So, I leave you with one final question, Melania. How will you leave your legacy not just for your child, but as the first lady of this great nation? #strongwomen
Dr. Milan LaBrey