Relationships

11 Jul Disconnected

  After living abroad for about the last 10 years of my life (with short stints in the States), I have come to realize that we Americans are an extremely disconnected, cautious society. To be fair, I realize that the media has perpetrated a lot of the apprehension. But in my assessment, we’ve gone beyond careful to disengaged. Recently, I move to New York. I have been here for 3 months. While I find it an exciting city, I have also found it to be the epitome of all that is wrong with the world. My journey into this unfamiliar outlook on life started at Starbucks. As anyone who knows me can attest, I am an avid Starbucks fan. I don’t go there because I necessarily like coffee or because Starbucks does or does not represent some moral ground. I went there because as I traveled the world, it was familiar. It brought me a sense of grounding in a new, unfamiliar world. Plus, the baristas were always fabulous and friendly. I knew them. They knew my dog, my drink, and me. It was always a great way to start my day.
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28 Feb Please Slow Down

  As we continue into 2017, I think we should all embrace the motto “Slow Down.”  It seems that with the advent of technology, job demands, the gym, children, friends, and life, we are constantly on the go.  Work hours seem to extend from 40-45 hours a week to upwards of 60-70 hours.   We need gadgets like iPads, Smartphones, and other “Smart” accessories to keep in touch with each other. We text, Skype, Facebook, and What’sUp each other to maintain the relationships with our family and friends.   But where is all the fast-paced living leading us?  Sure we might have more money, a fancier car, expensive clothes, a nice house, and the latest gadgets.  But let’s do a “real” inventory check on where we stand in our lives.    How are you getting along in our relationships?  How are your health and emotional well-being?  Are you really happy or just getting by?  Better yet, when is the last time that you have even slowed down long enough to really contemplate on these questions.  If you are like most people, it’s been a long time (if ever).
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17 Feb What’s Happened to Kindness?

  As I move around the world, I can’t help but notice that the world seems, frankly, less kind. On a global scale, this may seem somewhat obvious to most.  But on a personal level, this is a bit more elusive, but quickly starting to become an epidemic. I decided to take the time to research my theory to see if my thoughts had any merit. First, I reviewed behavior.  What I found was that many people are curt or simply unresponsive to their fellow human beings. We have whittled our interactions with people down to simple, disconnected, rote responses consisting of “I’m fine, no, yes, sure, fine, whatever, or ok.” In addition, we text responses that consist of 165 characters or less, and we use emoticons to share feelings. Many of us have resorted only to answering our phones when we “feel like it.” Then to add insult to injury, when people do spend “quality” time with their friends, they are usually phubbing them (phone snubbing).
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20 Oct Let’s Make LOVE Our New Paradigm

Last night I had a dream that I embarked on a train with all my belongings. As the train started, I realized that my dog wasn’t with me. I leaned out the train door to call her. She was running to catch up, and I thought for a moment that she might be able to. She couldn’t. There was no way that I was going to leave her behind. So I abandoned my possessions, and jumped off the train to be with my dog. Now this may not mean much or anything to anyone, but the dream was significant to me. For me, my dog LIA (Love in Action) is the embodiment of pure love and joy. Everywhere she goes, LIA does everything in her power to connect with everyone and bring a smile to their face. Often times, people will even stop me in the street just to touch her or take a photo with her. Her love energy is truly infectious. She sees no color, race, gender, or religion. All Lia sees is an opportunity to connect with love.
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