Thanks to another of the US republican candidate’s major blunders, as a people, we are now looking at a very important issue that plagues women around the world—sexual assault and violence. I personally have firsthand experience of unwanted, inappropriate attention from men. My first sexual assault was at 2 years of age, and there were others at the ages of 12 and 15. Like most people, I never shared what was going on because of the enormous amount of shame and confusion that comes along with being violated. But the men who hurt me were not famous. They didn’t have any power and my career wasn’t in jeopardy (which is a point that has been highlighted since the tapes released on Donald Trump).
The other day, I had a lovely chat with a British friend. We were talking about the dating culture in Paris. If you’ve read a few of my past blogs, you may have read that I am living in Paris. So this conversation was in the context of our personal experiences here. What we both had come to find is that Paris has a very sexually, open philosophy. One night stands, sex on the first date, and infidelity seem to be the cornerstone of the sexual culture here. Although I am far from a prude, I certainly don’t think that kind of behavior is conducive to developing or maintaining healthy relationships. But I am also not going to try to be the impetus of change for an entire country’s sexual values. Parisians will have to sort that out on their own.
There has been an onslaught of tragic shootings in the news related to the police targeting African Americans. Every time I see a video or a posting, I can’t help but wonder how we’ve went from great progress in our equality to such overtly regressed, racial, antiquated ways of thinking and approaching people. Naturally, because of the magnitude of these atrocities, it seems everyone has an opinion about the issue, and the slogan, “Black Lives Matter” is gaining controversy. I have two schools of thought on this idea. But as I was thinking about this issue, something came to me. I realized that I shouldn’t be the least bit surprised about how people are treating each other when we have political figureheads promoting violence and the absence of fundamental values.
Once again, our republican nominee has put a spin on this presidential election. We are no longer concerned about the education of our children, the plight of our economy, gun control, or the inordinate amount of violence that threatens the American citizens. Apparently, we should be focusing on the former Miss America and whether or not she “is or is not” fat. This party has gone from ridiculous toward absurd. It is hard to believe in the 11th hour, the republican party nominee could dig another six feet down the hole.
I moved to Paris just two short months ago. Although I have lived all over the world, I was most excited about coming to Paris as I had heard that it was going to be my “mother ship…” a land of lights, love and fashion. Now most people know me as the finding your “Purpose Practioner and Love Expert.” But a part of my heart will always belong to fashion. In fact, I would describe myself as Carrie Bradshaw meets Deepak Chopra wearing a hint of Amy Schumer rouge. Yes, I am an eclectic blend, and this is what I had hoped to find in Paris!
As an American, we really only hear about the refugee problem on the news. We’ve heard that countries in Europe and others like Canada are opening their borders. We may have also heard of an odd few of the refugees that are committing crimes or even acts of terrorism. But overall, we are essentially oblivious to the genuine hardship of these people as they flee their countries in order to save themselves and their families. I must admit, I was one of those people just reading the news with some pie in the sky assumption that the problem would somehow surely sort itself out in due time.