Author: Dr. Milan LaBrey

17 Feb What’s Happened to Kindness?

  As I move around the world, I can’t help but notice that the world seems, frankly, less kind. On a global scale, this may seem somewhat obvious to most.  But on a personal level, this is a bit more elusive, but quickly starting to become an epidemic. I decided to take the time to research my theory to see if my thoughts had any merit. First, I reviewed behavior.  What I found was that many people are curt or simply unresponsive to their fellow human beings. We have whittled our interactions with people down to simple, disconnected, rote responses consisting of “I’m fine, no, yes, sure, fine, whatever, or ok.” In addition, we text responses that consist of 165 characters or less, and we use emoticons to share feelings. Many of us have resorted only to answering our phones when we “feel like it.” Then to add insult to injury, when people do spend “quality” time with their friends, they are usually phubbing them (phone snubbing).
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23 Jan Love is the Only Bridge for Division

  While here in Paris, I have met the most interesting international travelers (mostly due to the charm of my 7 pound Maltese, Lia).  The other day was no exception. I met a wonderful woman from New Jersey.  As we got to talking, I found out that she had voted for Trump.  Now I did not vote for Trump.  But my reasons were less about politics and much more about psychology and emotional stability.  That said, I was curious to know her thoughts and the rationale behind her choice.  Now the details of the conversation are not important.  What is important is that the more we talked and listened to each other, the more we found common ground.  This isn’t to say that I agreed with all her points, nor her mine.  But it is to say that we found a space in between our differences that we infused with understanding and LOVE.
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19 Jan Perception

As I was walking down the street one day in Paris, a friend of mine was telling me how when she looks at the sky and saw the wisps of blue, she felt that God was giving her a sign that “she is loved.” As I looked at the sky, I also saw the small bits of blue peeking out from a cloud cover of gray.  In that moment, I realized how important perception was in how we walk through the world.
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11 Jan Inspiration vs. Desperation

The other day I read an article related to effective leadership.  Essentially it said that, the best leaders lead through inspiration, not desperation.  This was a very powerful point for me on a global and personal level.  First, we are moving into 2017 with many leaders around the world using desperation as their driving force.  This is a risky way to move forward as it does not inspire loyalty nor does it provide safety for the masses.  It is a long fuse on very dangerous explosives.  If we look at history, we can clearly see the impact of these types of leaders.  In the end, no one wins.
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